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DISTORTED PERCEPTIONS  Our own self-esteem may be distorted by our partial, and therefore, distorted perception of others.  From Timothy Gallway's 1974 book, The Inner Game of Tennis, the cycle goes like this:  1️⃣ Perception
2️⃣ Action
3️⃣ Result
4️⃣ Self-esteem.  It starts with distorted perceptions, as perception is the foundation of our pursuits.  Think about it. We see something that interests us or seems like a worthwhile pursuit, and then these perceptions create the basis of the actions that we undertake to make the thing our reality.  Make no mistake about it, everything we think we see is merely perception.  Distorted perceptions are nothing new…  We’ve ALWAYS had partial - and therefore distorted - perceptions of others’ lives.  Be it friends, family, co-workers, and especially those we admire or look up to; i.e. our heroes: athletes, philanthropists, leaders, etc. - we’ve never truly known the totality of their reality.  Yet we look at them and say: “I want that life” or “I want to be like that person” and then we plan a course of action that we think will take us
DISTORTED PERCEPTIONS Our own self-esteem may be distorted by our partial, and therefore, distorted perception of others. From Timothy Gallway's 1974 book, The Inner Game of Tennis, the cycle goes like this: 1️⃣ Perception 2️⃣ Action 3️⃣ Result 4️⃣ Self-esteem. It starts with distorted perceptions, as perception is the foundation of our pursuits. Think about it. We see something that interests us or seems like a worthwhile pursuit, and then these perceptions create the basis of the actions that we undertake to make the thing our reality. Make no mistake about it, everything we think we see is merely perception. Distorted perceptions are nothing new… We’ve ALWAYS had partial - and therefore distorted - perceptions of others’ lives. Be it friends, family, co-workers, and especially those we admire or look up to; i.e. our heroes: athletes, philanthropists, leaders, etc. - we’ve never truly known the totality of their reality. Yet we look at them and say: “I want that life” or “I want to be like that person” and then we plan a course of action that we think will take us "there". Here’s the problem: We lacked the complete picture from the outset. Our path has now been plotted with faulty information. So our perfect plan, even if executed flawlessly, was created with incomplete information and will result in an outcome that is different from our expectation. This is what happens when our original perception is distorted. Since we’re humans who tie our results to our identity and self worth, these distorted results lead to chinks in our self-esteem. We begin to think there is something wrong with us because our result doesn’t match our original perception… So our self-esteem or self-confidence takes a hit when we attain these distorted results.. And then... Well, you're going to have to listen to the podcast (BHP Short 008: Distortion of Perception) for a full explanation of the distortions that pervade our lives as well as blueprint to alter our mental approach to identify the proper actions and untangle our self-worth from our results. . Listen at bit.ly/betterhumanproject or wherever you’re subscribed to the @betterhumanproject_ 😉 👊🏼.
Like many, I crave structure.  Structure helps create efficiency, discipline, and consistency. It fosters the ability to be present and high functioning, as it relieves us of many trivial decisions on a daily basis.  If I’m being honest, it’s a major strength of mine.  Over time, however, it also creates routine, which leads to monotony, which breeds sleepwalking - a death sentence for being fully present or creative.  This is the shadow of rigid structure.  To quote Tao Te Ching:  The living are soft and yielding;
the dead are rigid and stiff.
Living plants are flexible and tender;
the dead are brittle and dry.
Those who are stiff and rigid
are the disciples of death.
Those who are soft and yielding
are the disciples of life.
The rigid and stiff will be broken.
The soft and yielding will overcome.  When I presented F*ck Your Feelings to you, I admitted that play was something that I, as an adult, suck at.  I’m guilty of pushing and pushing until I reach my breaking point, only then remembering that play is not only fun, but beneficial - and required for mental wellbeing.  Structure is great, but only if it retains a certain degree of pliability. This is why buildings designed to withstand earthquakes and hurricanes have flexibility built into their structure. Staying 100% rigid would make them MORE susceptible to catastrophic damage from such events.  It’s such a weird thing to have to FOCUS on playing more.  I’m still working on it.  This is my public accountability post: I’m refocusing my commitment to play.  How do you incorporate fun/play into your life?
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#fuckyourfeelings #bebetter #dobetter #play #fun #growth #mindset #golf #focus #structure #taoteching
Like many, I crave structure. Structure helps create efficiency, discipline, and consistency. It fosters the ability to be present and high functioning, as it relieves us of many trivial decisions on a daily basis. If I’m being honest, it’s a major strength of mine. Over time, however, it also creates routine, which leads to monotony, which breeds sleepwalking - a death sentence for being fully present or creative. This is the shadow of rigid structure. To quote Tao Te Ching: The living are soft and yielding;
the dead are rigid and stiff.
Living plants are flexible and tender;
the dead are brittle and dry. Those who are stiff and rigid
are the disciples of death.
Those who are soft and yielding
are the disciples of life. The rigid and stiff will be broken.
The soft and yielding will overcome. When I presented F*ck Your Feelings to you, I admitted that play was something that I, as an adult, suck at. I’m guilty of pushing and pushing until I reach my breaking point, only then remembering that play is not only fun, but beneficial - and required for mental wellbeing. Structure is great, but only if it retains a certain degree of pliability. This is why buildings designed to withstand earthquakes and hurricanes have flexibility built into their structure. Staying 100% rigid would make them MORE susceptible to catastrophic damage from such events. It’s such a weird thing to have to FOCUS on playing more. I’m still working on it. This is my public accountability post: I’m refocusing my commitment to play. How do you incorporate fun/play into your life? . #fuckyourfeelings #bebetter #dobetter #play #fun #growth #mindset #golf #focus #structure #taoteching
Are you a multitasker? If so, you might want to stop 🛑.
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Multitasking decreases performance, impairs memory retention and trains our brains to seek irrelevant, trivial inputs.

That's not my opinion. Those are the conclusions of super-smart scientists at Stanford who study the brain and performance.  The researchers actually called multitaskers “suckers for irrelevancy”. Don’t be an overwhelmed sucker.

Today’s 15-minute episode of the BHP highlights an essential practice to identify the signal within the sea of noise, to separate the vital few from the trivial many.
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That critical practice is called Essentialism, and it is the disciplined pursuit of less (but better). From the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown:

Non-Essentialists:
❌ Pays attention to the loudest voice
❌ Hears everything being said
❌ Is overwhelmed by all the information  Essentialists
✅ Pay attention to the signal in the noise
✅ Hear what is not being said
✅ Scans to find the essence of the information  Tune in to BHP Short 007 for:
💥 A test of your ability to identify the vital info: can you identify the lead in this story? (most people fail)
💥 A special appearance from @huckberry ‘s @bennyohh for a look at how Huckberry uses the principles of Essentialism to drive their high performance and rapid growth
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Listen at bit.ly/betterhumanproject or wherever you listen to podcasts.
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#bebetter #dobetter #essentialism #productivity #timemanagement #brain #neuroscience #multitasking #signal #growth #mindset
Are you a multitasker? If so, you might want to stop 🛑. . Multitasking decreases performance, impairs memory retention and trains our brains to seek irrelevant, trivial inputs.

That's not my opinion. Those are the conclusions of super-smart scientists at Stanford who study the brain and performance. The researchers actually called multitaskers “suckers for irrelevancy”. Don’t be an overwhelmed sucker.
 Today’s 15-minute episode of the BHP highlights an essential practice to identify the signal within the sea of noise, to separate the vital few from the trivial many. . That critical practice is called Essentialism, and it is the disciplined pursuit of less (but better). From the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown:
 Non-Essentialists: ❌ Pays attention to the loudest voice ❌ Hears everything being said ❌ Is overwhelmed by all the information Essentialists ✅ Pay attention to the signal in the noise ✅ Hear what is not being said ✅ Scans to find the essence of the information Tune in to BHP Short 007 for: 💥 A test of your ability to identify the vital info: can you identify the lead in this story? (most people fail) 💥 A special appearance from @huckberry ‘s @bennyohh for a look at how Huckberry uses the principles of Essentialism to drive their high performance and rapid growth - Listen at bit.ly/betterhumanproject or wherever you listen to podcasts. . #bebetter #dobetter #essentialism #productivity #timemanagement #brain #neuroscience #multitasking #signal #growth #mindset
Dishonesty stems from fear.  I challenge you to investigate your own expressions, to think about the times you are, or have been, dishonest.  Think about the times you've held back, played small, or flat out held in your truth(s)  Why do we do it?  I'll argue that - unless we're sinister beings, which I'm assuming you are not - the answer is fear.  Fear of what the truth might mean.
Fear of not being understood.
Fear of not liking the outcome.
Fear of conflict or confrontation.
Fear the recipient’s reaction.  We could go on and on…  If we have no fear of the outcome, we have no reason to be dishonest in our actions.  When we allow fear to dictate our actions, words or expressions, we fail to be our authentic selves.  Instead of yielding to fear, let's give voice to what lies within.  By holding back, we remain partial.  Those who overcome their fear, giving voice to what lies within, experience authentic connection, truth, love, and yes, sometimes pain.  But when we prevent ourselves from being authentic, we remove any possibility of being whole.  It's not only our choice of words that belie our truest selves... These fears influence what we wear, what we say, what we do, and how we move through the world.  We are whole when we pursue our authentic path. To cheat ourselves of this existence is heartbreaking.  All progress start with the truth.  And this simple statement, all progress start with the truth, is the spark that can ignite a blazing inferno of growth.  If we're courage enough to confront that which we fear, if we're willing to explore WHY we feel compelled to be dishonest, we have endless opportunities for growth.  A lack of honesty - with ourselves, or others - stalls our development.  Where - and WHY - are we being dishonest?  All progress starts with the truth.
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Tune in to the latest BHP Short: Dishonesty Stems From Fear for more. bit.ly/betterhumanproject or wherever you listen to podcasts.
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📸 by @theplusstudios & @felix_mkay at last weekend’s Better Human Workshop
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#bebetter #dobetter #fear #honesty #dishonesty #truth #real #authenticity #growth #mindset #progress #success
Dishonesty stems from fear. I challenge you to investigate your own expressions, to think about the times you are, or have been, dishonest. Think about the times you've held back, played small, or flat out held in your truth(s) Why do we do it? I'll argue that - unless we're sinister beings, which I'm assuming you are not - the answer is fear. Fear of what the truth might mean. Fear of not being understood. Fear of not liking the outcome. Fear of conflict or confrontation. Fear the recipient’s reaction. We could go on and on… If we have no fear of the outcome, we have no reason to be dishonest in our actions. When we allow fear to dictate our actions, words or expressions, we fail to be our authentic selves. Instead of yielding to fear, let's give voice to what lies within. By holding back, we remain partial. Those who overcome their fear, giving voice to what lies within, experience authentic connection, truth, love, and yes, sometimes pain. But when we prevent ourselves from being authentic, we remove any possibility of being whole. It's not only our choice of words that belie our truest selves... These fears influence what we wear, what we say, what we do, and how we move through the world. We are whole when we pursue our authentic path. To cheat ourselves of this existence is heartbreaking. All progress start with the truth. And this simple statement, all progress start with the truth, is the spark that can ignite a blazing inferno of growth. If we're courage enough to confront that which we fear, if we're willing to explore WHY we feel compelled to be dishonest, we have endless opportunities for growth. A lack of honesty - with ourselves, or others - stalls our development. Where - and WHY - are we being dishonest? All progress starts with the truth. . Tune in to the latest BHP Short: Dishonesty Stems From Fear for more. bit.ly/betterhumanproject or wherever you listen to podcasts. . 📸 by @theplusstudios & @felix_mkay at last weekend’s Better Human Workshop . #bebetter #dobetter #fear #honesty #dishonesty #truth #real #authenticity #growth #mindset #progress #success